They say that it's not what you know, so much as who you know that makes for your success.
What is really important is the heart connection, that is who you know and who knows you.
Knowing you is not enough. It comes down to knowing your character, how you react under pressure, the way your mind works, whether you are a giver or a taker, can you be trusted, whether or not you have a heart of gold.
Good news for people who do! There are very few of you, and therefore you are worth more than your weight in gold.
Well put in Neil Young's song Heart of Gold, which says a lot in a few words.
I want to live,
I want to give
I've been a miner
for a heart of gold.
It's these expressions
I never give
That keep me searching
for a heart of gold
And I'm getting old.
People who have money know this very well. How often they are approached by people in searching for only for the gold. Smart wealthy people develop an instinct for detecting what is genuine, not only in gold but in human character.
Warren Buffet says that it is a bad idea to marry for money, especially if you've got money!
I was talking with a friend the other day, a young English teacher living in Japan, whose story impressed me with how much of a difference a heart of gold can make in your career and your opportunities.
Still in his twenties, he was making a modest living teaching English at a Japanese middle school, like so many foreigners living in Japan. However, he has two things going for him that set him apart from the rest. He has a knack for getting along with people, and he has a heart of gold.
To a wealthy friend of his whom we'll call Mr. X, this meant more than him being just another nice guy. Mr. X happens to be a well-known millionaire entrepreneur in Japan, who was starting a new company and needed a reliable person to help him head up customer relations.
My young friend has no particular business experience, and doesn't even speak much Japanese. Yet Mr. X hired him to effectively run an important part of his new company, at double his original salary plus an expense account, move to an attractive new location and manage 20 people in a business that could easily corner the market in its field. Mr. X said that he would teach him the business, provide a private tutor in Japanese, cover his expenses, and leave the local operations up to him.
I asked him why such a golden opportunity had fallen into his lap in times like these!
He told me that he had known Mr. X for several years on a social basis, and had met many of his friends. He had asked Mr. X the same question! He told him that he could teach him the business. What he could not teach him was what he already had, an honest character and an ability to get along with people. While many people often asked Mr. X if they could borrow money, they often seemed to forget to return it. My friend however was different. If he had to borrow 10,000 yen for whatever reason, he had always scrupulously returned it the next time they met.
That behavior and that character had won his trust. And it won my friend a golden opportunity and a promising future on a fast track that bypassed business school, business experience, and everything else on the crowded way to career advancement.
My friends story demonstrates that it is not only who you know, but who knows you that counts.
And it shows that important people are always watching and judging character based on behavior, and that your character can open the door to new opportunities in your career.
Who do you know that may be watching you with an opportunity in mind?
What can you do to demonstrate to the world that you have a heart of gold?
Are you spending too much time putting on appearances, and not enough being your true self?
Are you limiting or prejudging your opportunities based on negative news about the economy, and missing the real opportunities that might be closer than you think?
There was one more piece of advice from Mr. X which is certainly worth its weight in gold.
He said that the secret of success was quite simple, and that everyone missed it by placing too much faith in hard work alone.
All you needed to succeed was to help others to succeed.
If you help your client, your customer, or your collaboration partner make more money, then their success will be your success. Stop focusing exclusively on how you can help yourself, and look for more ways on how you can help others.
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